They will most likely prescribe a drug but honestly try no sexual contact (he can't jack off during this time) for a week or been dating my boyfriend for about a month now and we recently had sex for the first time. I would have him stop watching porn and jacking off, it can cause ED. This means, no hand jobs, oral, porn, anything. The most effective thing I've seen for this is not having sex for awhile. Unfortunately this is a COMMON and HUGE problem with men. He dick isn't sensitive like it used to be. So unless your **** is grabbing his dick super hard the way his hand would, he's going to get soft. There is a lot more physical pressure/gripping with oral and hand jobs then with sex. All you can do is support him.Ī lot of men, jack off so much that when they get the ****, they can't stay hard. You could be a porn star and he'd still get soft. You can't control his mental issued or why he gets soft. He needs to address the issue with a doctor/thearpist.Īs for all the 'guys' on here replying to you, negatively. Made me feel like my **** wasn't good but it's not us: it's them. I know with my ex partner, it was like this. It makes you feel, inadequate as a women. HAS YET TO MENTION OR SAY ANYTHING ABOUT HOW DRUGS IS ALL OF YOU GUYS REPLYING TO THIS MESSAGE
OH AND AFTER I GOT CLEAN THE SEX WENT BACK TO BEING AMAZING AND GREAT ANYWAY I TOLD HER EVERYTHING I GOT HELP I'VE BEEN CLEAN EVER SINCE THEN AND WILL CONTINUE TO BE CLEAN. WE DIDN'T TRY FOR A FEW DAYS AND THEN WE HAD SEX AND I CAME WITHIN LIKE 20 OR 30 MINUTES AND IT WAS GREAT UNTIL WE TRIED TO DO IT LATER THAT DAY AND SHE WENT DOWN ON ME I GOT HARD AS SOON AS SHE GOT ON TOP I WENT SOFT AGAIN AND SHE SAID TO ME (IF IT REALLY AIN'T ME THEN YOUR ON DRUGS OR YOU NEED HELP. IT WAS BECAUSE I WAS DOING DRUGS I WASN'T SLEEPING MUCH AT ALL I WASN'T EATING MUCH I DON'T KNOW EXACTLY THE SCIENCE OF WHY DRUGS DO THIS ALL I KNOW IS THAT THEY EFFECT IT VERY MUCH THAT HAPPENED ONCE OR TWICE LIKE AND SHE WAS CONCERNED THAT IT WAS HER WHEN IT REALLY WASN'T AT ALL I LOVED EVERYTHING ABOUT HER AND EVERYTHING ABOUT HAVING SEX WITH HER. TO US DOING AND IT'D ENJOYABLE AT THE BEGINNING TO BEGIN WERE SHE'D GET OFF AND I'D FEEL LIKE I WAS GOING TO BUT AS SOON AS I GOT THE FEELING OF ABOUT TO BUST IT'D GO AWAY OR I JUST COULDN'T BUST AND BE HAVING SEX FOR SO LONG SHE'D BE TO TIRED TO KEEP GOING SO WE'D END UP HAVING S3X FOR 1.5 OR 2 HOURS HER BUSTIN MULTIPLE TIMES AND ME NOT EVEN GETTING OFF ONCE UGH IT WAS HORRIBLE FOR ME SO THEN IT WENT FROM JUST HAVING SEX WITH HER FOR A HOUR TRYING MY HARDEST BUT STILL COULDN'T CUM ID BE HARD THE HOLE TIME UNTIL I FELT LIKE I WAS GOING TO CUM THEN I'D GO SOFT. S3X WE WAS HAVEIN WENT FROM BEING AMAZING WE'RE WE'D BOTH ENJOY IT AND BOTH GETTING OFF EVERTIME I HAD A GORGEOUS GIRLFRIEND WITH A AMAZING PERSONALITY SHE WAS LITERALLY EVERYTHING I LOOKED FOR IN A GIRL I LOVED EVERYTHING ABOUT HER WELL IT WENT FROM BEING AMAZING IN THE BEGINNING WELL IN THE MIDDLE OF THE REATIONSHIP I HAD GOT AROUND THE WRONG PEOPLE AND STARTED DOING PARTYING AND DOING DRUGS WE'LL SHE DIDNT KNOW I WAS DOING THEM AND OF COURSE I HAD TO HID IT FROM HER WELL withing a two week space the A FEW YEARS AGO I HAD GOT INTO DOING SOMETHING REALLY STUPID I'VE LEARNED MY LESSON LOL BESIDES THE FACT WILL DEFINITELY MAKE A MAN GO SOFT FROM EXPERIENCE. WELL I HAVEN'T SEEN NOBODY COMMENT AND SAY WHAT IVE BEEN THINKING.DOES HE DO DRUGS!!! I KNOW NOBODY WANTS TO JUST ADMITTE TO DOIN DRUGS AND LOOK BAD BUT SOME OF THESE REPLY'S TO THIS QUESTION ARE HILARIOUS BUT. Please give me some insight since he's refusing to tell me why this is happening to him.it's kind of hard to believe that he just doesn't know why, you know? Any advice is appreciated. When guys go soft inside a girl, why is it? Is it because I suck at sex maybe? Is it due to lack of attraction while he's in me? Could it be him? He does smoke cigarettes and drink but only sometimes. But as soon as he enters me, we have sex for several seconds and then he just goes soft. Also, when I'm giving him head, he's rock hard. I don't think that he has erectile dysfunction at the age of 20. It really hurts me when he goes soft inside of me because sex is a big, big deal. However, he says that he has NO idea why it happens & that he's being 100 % honest with me about not knowing why. I tried to be understanding and told him that if it's me, to just tell me and that we'll work on it. I tried to go back down on him and make him hard again and then start having sex, but he goes soft again. The thing is, many times we have sex, he goes soft inside of me. He's 20, about to turn 21 and I'm 23 years old. I have been dating my current boyfriend for about 5 months now.